There’s only one place to start. The beginning. So here’s our journey and how me became we.

I met my husband at 18 in Nov 2001. We couldn’t be more different, he’s from a small village in Punjab, India and I’m born and bred in the Midlands.

We dated in secret for a few years until I told my parents at 21. The whole being Indian with a boyfriend still wasn’t really socially acceptable. And to think, it was 2004! Anyway, we finally wed in 2005. I had just finished my degree and was a little out of my depth. I moved 100 miles away from everything I knew and it was hard. I slowly built a new life, a career, made new friends and found happiness.

Within a few years of marriage came all the usual prying questions, ‘when are you having kids?’, ‘are you having problems’, don’t leave it too late! Who were these people you may ask? Well anyone who wanted to put their 2 cents in! I used to direct all the questions to my husband and then they’d all go quiet! Why they thought it was fine to harass me and not him I don’t know. But the truth is we had just decided to wait to start a family. That’s what we did; let me rephrase that, that’s what we tried to do!

In September 2014 we decided that it was the ‘right time’ (believe me there isn’t) but you only figure that out when it’s too late!

We fell pregnant in October 2014! Shocked? So were we! That’s when our lives changed forever (cliche but true!)

The eagerly anticipated first scan was 16th January 2015, we were super excited, nervous, scared, happy, a very emotional day! When the sonographer came in she was calm and started explaining what was going to happen. As I lay there with the cold jelly on my tummy, feeling the strange pressure as she tried to find our baby on the screen, my heart was thumping and I was praying.

The sonographer went a little quiet, and then revealed ‘wow you’re having twins!’ I was shocked! My husband had tears of joy (he’s always wanted twins and joked for a long time that we would!) Wow twins, I said it again and again… and again. The sonographer started to measure the twins. A few minutes later she said ‘oh hang on, what’s this, can you see three?’ What? Are you serious? That was it, I burst into tears! This cannot be happening to us! I hadn’t got over the shock of twins.. will we ever cope?